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By: FredMcKinnon.Com » Blog Archive » On Leadership: 3 Nuggets, Pt. 3

FredMcKinnon.Com » Blog Archive » On Leadership: 3 Nuggets, Pt. 3 — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 20:35:11 +0000

[...] … you can catch the background behind this series and the first “nugget” in this post, and the 2nd nugget is discussed (or shall I say, “being discussed”) [...]

By: FredMcKinnon.Com » Blog Archive » On Leadership: 3 Nuggets, Pt. 2

FredMcKinnon.Com » Blog Archive » On Leadership: 3 Nuggets, Pt. 2 — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 01:59:03 +0000

[...] is Part 2 of this series – see Part 1 for the story behind this series and the first [...]

By: Fred McKinnon

Fred McKinnon — Mon, 10 Mar 2008 01:48:36 +0000

Jeff
That is TOO FUNNY.

By: Jeff Thompson

Jeff Thompson — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 11:02:44 +0000

I didn’t really hear anything you just said i this post. I was too busy thinking about the next thing I was going to say…

By: Daddy

Daddy — Sat, 08 Mar 2008 18:20:48 +0000

Re: frequency….Either way will work for me.

By: Daddy

Daddy — Sat, 08 Mar 2008 17:44:55 +0000

This is really good! I am a firm believer in what I think is a divine revelation I received from another minister several years ago. It concerns “Successful Relationships”, and the concept is a three-way one that states: “Successful Relationships” depend upon “Effective Communication” which depends upon an “Identification and Understanding of Roles”.
Your Mom and I, in counseling married couples through the “Prepare/Enrich” ministry stress that effective communication is a two-way street that involves both speaking and listening. We emphasize the importance of a concept we call “Active Listening”. It’s too much to explain here, but it’s absolutely amazing how “Active Listening” will open doors of intimacy between two people.

By: Peter Park

Peter Park — Sat, 08 Mar 2008 05:18:54 +0000

Your point is something I like to do with the members of my time, which is to spend time with them away from the music. I like to spend some time just listening to what they want to do with their lives for God.

By: Chris from Canada

Chris from Canada — Sat, 08 Mar 2008 03:31:08 +0000

Jordan at WorshipTrench had some sets of great questions to ask worship team folks to start some great discussion. With (I hope!) some wisdom I modified the questions to fit our culture and our challenges and we have had a great few months interacting with the questions and each other’s answers.

As far as reading patterns, it all goes to RSS so it doesn’t matter when you post.

By: Billy Chia

Billy Chia — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 22:51:50 +0000

When I was in youth ministry I used to say to my adult leaders, “If you are talking more than the kids, you’re talking too much.”

Does that apply to music? “If you’re talking more than the band, you are talking too much?”

on blog weekend reading – I try to take a day off from RSSing but sometimes if I haven’t read a lot during the week then Saturday becomes catch up. So either way is good to go man.

By: Robert McKinnon

Robert McKinnon — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 20:10:39 +0000

I would rather see more on this sooner than later. Don’t wait a long time. I love it!

By: Robert McKinnon

Robert McKinnon — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 20:09:58 +0000

I love it! I think every leader should go through a “listening 101″ class. And I really mean LISTENING. So often we truly intend to listen, and do so until the first comment or thought is voiced that we think is “wrong”. From that moment on many of us tend to “fake” listening when we actually can’t get past what they said that was “wrong”.

THAT isn’t listening. Listening is to truly give ourselves to the one speaking and taking in all that he/she is saying without making “final judgements” until all has been said. Many times the person may “qualify” or even correct what was said earlier.

The moment we stop listening, we are TRAINING that person that we don’t care about their feelings or opinions. Right or wrong, they have them. And it’s not about BEING right or wrong. It’s about loving them and caring enough to treat them with respect and honor regardless of what they say.

There will always be a time to speak correction or address wrong thoughts with a person who needs it. And the person who needs it will amost always be willing to receive from you if you first show them you care enough to simply listen.

We are to love Christ why? Because He first loved us. Yet we expect those who “follow” to listen to us too often when we, ourselves, are unskilled or unwilling to listen first.

Selah

By: Crystal

Crystal — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 19:59:21 +0000

I completely agree. I just conducted a meeting with my band and brought some thinking questions and let them just talk about different issues. We have to be really careful though not to let it turn into gripe session where everyone is beating you up for your leadership abilities.